Lessons Learned - Before and During

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Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby FORmyBOY » Sun Nov 16, 2008 9:53 pm

This post is an index for special lessons learned posts written by dads who have fought the fight, and want to share what worked, what didn't, and helpful advice for those still in the trenches.

If you want to write a lessons learned post and have it included, just post in before and after and send a PM to one of the Mods, and they will include it in this index. If you have already posted one, or you recall a certain post that fits this purpose, send a PM to a Mod with the link so we can include it.


Lessons Learned Posts


Step by Step plan for Custody
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=31336

Building Your Case: Pursuing Every Detail
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=30638

The Value of Settlement Conferences
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=30095

Perseverance and the Right Focus Pays
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=30806

Graduation Thesis
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=29367

If I knew then what I know now
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=29380
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=30297

The List saved this Dad!
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=29758

The List:
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?t=13374
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Re: Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby FORmyBOY » Mon Jan 05, 2009 12:57 pm

All - I have unlocked this topic, so that others who want to add a post that references another topic they found valuable, they can do so.
Please limit the posts to just a link, and a very brief summary of what the topic is about.

Again, these should be focused Lessons Learned, real experience with real results.

We will edit these to keep them organized, so be forewarned.
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Re: Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby Bullitt007 » Mon Feb 08, 2010 12:22 pm

What happened to my initial post in the Lesson's Learned? I see the responses are there, but my first post is gone. :?:


Lessons Learned Posts

Step by Step plan for Custody
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=31336
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Re: Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby vstarharley13810 » Mon Jun 14, 2010 1:08 pm

I learned that in a matter of 15 to 30 minutes deliberating in the court without a lawyer to help me out in the divorce process made me so confident about myself. I have been divorced for almost 8 months now and celebrating that my 25+ years of marriage was over.

At first, I cried and felt sad in 60 seconds. After that breathtaking ordeal I felt a sense of relief. It was a feeling that felt so good knowing I am FREE. :D
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Re: Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby alexplantman » Thu Jan 06, 2011 10:48 pm

He who has the best attorney wins :twisted:
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Re: Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby Fatheroffour » Fri Jan 07, 2011 6:58 am

Lesson 1. Your attorney should be used to present your case not build it for you. Building a successul custody case usually starts long before filing for divorce by being an active and involved parent.
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Re: Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby Zeus69 » Thu Feb 03, 2011 4:18 pm

I clicked on the "Step by Step Plan for Custody" and cannot find the post (I guess it's a numbered of recommendations--not THE LIST) that many refer to as "excellent". What am I missing?
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Re: Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby zetm » Tue Apr 05, 2011 10:57 pm

zeus69 - I was wondering the same thing....
By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
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Re: Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby aniahunks » Fri Oct 21, 2011 6:24 am

I admire a man that has desperation to rise his child alone. He's very responsible father which is truly commendable.
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Re: Lessons Learned - Before and During

Postby Here_We_Go » Wed Nov 16, 2011 3:49 pm

I can't seem to find number one either. the step by step. could someone please put a working link for that list.:)
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