Lessons Learned - Before and During

[FORmyBOY]

This post is an index for special lessons learned posts written by dads who have fought the fight, and want to share what worked, what didn't, and helpful advice for those still in the trenches.

If you want to write a lessons learned post and have it included, just post in before and after and send a PM to one of the Mods, and they will include it in this index. If you have already posted one, or you recall a certain post that fits this purpose, send a PM to a Mod with the link so we can include it.


Lessons Learned Posts

Step by Step plan for Custody
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=31336

Building Your Case: Pursuing Every Detail
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=30638

The Value of Settlement Conferences
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=30095

Perseverance and the Right Focus Pays
http://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=30806

Graduation Thesis
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=29367

If I knew then what I know now
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=29380
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=30297

The List saved this Dad!
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=29758

The List:
https://www.dadsdivorce.com/father_divorce_forum/viewtopic.php?t=13374

[FORmyBOY]

All - I have unlocked this topic, so that others who want to add a post that references another topic they found valuable, they can do so.
Please limit the posts to just a link, and a very brief summary of what the topic is about.

Again, these should be focused Lessons Learned, real experience with real results.

We will edit these to keep them organized, so be forewarned.

[Bullitt007]

What happened to my initial post in the Lesson's Learned? I see the responses are there, but my first post is gone.


Lessons Learned Posts

Step by Step plan for Custody
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=31336

[vstarharley13810]

I learned that in a matter of 15 to 30 minutes deliberating in the court without a lawyer to help me out in the divorce process made me so confident about myself. I have been divorced for almost 8 months now and celebrating that my 25+ years of marriage was over.

At first, I cried and felt sad in 60 seconds. After that breathtaking ordeal I felt a sense of relief. It was a feeling that felt so good knowing I am FREE.

[alexplantman]

He who has the best attorney wins

[Fatheroffour]

Lesson 1. Your attorney should be used to present your case not build it for you. Building a successul custody case usually starts long before filing for divorce by being an active and involved parent.

[Zeus69]

I clicked on the "Step by Step Plan for Custody" and cannot find the post (I guess it's a numbered of recommendations--not THE LIST) that many refer to as "excellent". What am I missing?

[zetm]

zeus69 - I was wondering the same thing....

[aniahunks]

I admire a man that has desperation to rise his child alone. He's very responsible father which is truly commendable.

[Here_We_Go]

I can't seem to find number one either. the step by step. could someone please put a working link for that list.