Protective Order

[Bart]

Furry,
Do you have any advice here? I want my behavior to be consistent with the danger that I believe she poses, but I can't exactly quit my job to stay home. I have warned the sitter that she needs to be prepared to call me or the police if she can't handle a situation. But, unfortunately, we are losing her in about a month. I'm not sure we can afford to replace her, but I want to enter any divorce proceeding in as good a situation as possible.

[FurryCatHerder]

(Deleted due to being electronically stalked on this board.)

[Lawmoe]

You have no basis for a protective order simply because she threeaten to kick you out of bed. remain in the house. Make sure you do not give her a reason to seek a restraining order. de-escalate arguments, wlak away and under no circumstances should you make threats or allow confontations to become physical.

[Gecko]

I have warned the sitter that she needs to be prepared to call me or the police if she can't handle a situation. But, unfortunately, we are losing her in about a month. I'm not sure we can afford to replace her, but I want to enter any divorce proceeding in as good a situation as possible.

You might want to consider putting the children into daycare. That would (IMO) reinforce the idea that she is unable to care for the children on her own.

Understand too, that because you have supported this way of life (a nanny and a housekeeper) because of her "illness", she will have grounds to seek alimony and may not have to pay child support.

Unfortunately, "threatening" to kick you out of bed or turning up the volume of the television is not sufficient "grounds" for a restraining order. The only way you can get her out of the house is to when you file for divorce, you file a emergency temporary order asking not only for custody of the children, but exclusive use of the marital residence.

[Josh]

on you file and pursue a police report for battery. You need to presume this hag will try to set you up. Be smarter. Be patient. Use the system. Set her up, if you can, to assault you in front of witnesses. Verbally baiting someone in public is an effective means of achieving this, especially with an unstrung woman who needs meds. You know the drill.